I will give those married at Living Hope the same four pieces of advice I gave this young couple during the ceremony.
1. Be each others #1 fan.
There will be times when the world, our boss, even our kids will beat us up emotionally, but a husband and wife should always be there cheering each other on. It is easy for us to fall into the trap of finding faults instead of looking for the best in our spouse. If we treated our favorite sports team like we did our spouse no one would ever confuse us with being a fan.
2. Speak well of each other.
When we get our attitudes right, we need to get our words right. It is easy to just let abusive words slip out of our mouths toward the person that loves us most. Daily we must think of the words that we should not say, and eliminate them. Also we should purposely go out of our way to say the words that will build each other up.
3. Resolve difficulties and disagreements quickly.
God's word says it is the little foxes that destroy the vine. It is the little things built up over time that destroy a marriage. Divorces and bad marriages usually do not happen overnight. It is those little things that snowball until they are out of control. Find solutions to marriage conflicts quickly. Also be ready to forgive each other quickly.
4. Endure.
Remind yourself my marriage is for life. Through the good and bad times, joys and responsibilities, this is my partner for life. If there is ever a time I may want out, I remind myself God is the one who put my spouse and I together and no man or woman should separate us.
For those of us who are married or one day will be married I believe these four things will make life enjoyable and happy with your spouse.
I love you.
In Jesus Service,
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