Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Marriage Part 3
Dan Lebatard on his radio show last week was talking about the former quarterback of the Miami Dolphins, Dan Marino. It has been revealed in the New York Post that Marino had a child with his girlfriend. Marino is a married man and a pillar in Miami's community. Lebatard's conclusion is that marriage is dying and most men will not be faithful to their wives. Men are only as faithful as their options. That marriage is antiquated, and will go the way of the dinosaurs. This is my paraphrase of his words.
I agree that if we continue with our main option, ourselves, marriages and all of society will die. I am not Marino's or Lebatard's judge. But i do judge myself. If my marriage is to flourish, my focus cannot be on my needs. If our society is to flourish, we need to change our mind about wanting what is best solely for us.
Marriage is a “great mystery.” We cannot discard it, as it is too important, but it overwhelms us. In the Bible, mystery is used to mean not some esoteric knowledge known only to insiders but rather some wondrous, unlooked-for truth that God is revealing through his Spirit. A secret we would say.
But what is the secret to marriage. In short, the “secret” is not simply the fact of marriage per se. It is the message that what husbands should do for their wives is what Jesus did to bring us into union with himself. And what is that?
Jesus gave himself up for us. Jesus the Son, though equal with the Father, gave up his glory and took on our human nature (Philippians 2:5ff). But further, he willingly went to the cross and paid the penalty for our sins, removing our guilt and condemnation, so that we could be united with him (Romans 6:5) and take on his nature (2 Peter 1:4). He gave up his glory and power and became a servant. He died to his own interests and looked to our needs and interests instead (Romans 15:1–3). Jesus’s sacrificial service to us has brought us into a deep union with him and he with us. And that, Paul says, is the key not only to understanding marriage but to living it.
This is the secret—that the gospel of Jesus and marriage explain one another. That when God invented marriage, he already had the saving work of Jesus in mind
The Meaning Of Marriage Timothy Keller pg 42-47